Last Week’s Amazing … Nationally Televised Ballpark Proposal … That Nobody Noticed!!
We’ve all seen this … sometime during a game … the jumbo screen flashes to a couple and the fans watch as a young man gets out a small box with a big ring and asks his girlfriend to marry him. After they hug or kiss, the fans in the stands erupt into cheers and […]
Is Your Marriage Riding an Emotional Roller Coaster?
The Volatile Couple Is your marriage riding an emotional roller coaster? If so, you may be what Professor Murray calls a “volatile” couple. Volatile couples, as their label implies, are unstable, doing their marital dance on the devoted/divorce borderline. Spouses are like microwaves and flash freezers. Their emotions, whether positive or negative, instantly heat up and “boil over;” or plunge […]
What is Your Tone of Voice Saying?
When our children were small, I used to hear my wife speaking to our kids in a tone of voice that sounded like they were her worst enemies….but she couldn’t hear it! And she would hear me speaking to our kids in a tone of voice that made her fear for the lives of our […]
The Secret to a Better Marriage
What if I told you there was one thing that you could do today and every day that would dramatically improve the quality of your marriage … no matter what condition it is in? In fact, doing this one thing regularly will make good marriages great and even begin to heal broken relationships. What’s great about […]
Don’t Let Busyness Destroy Your Marriage
Have you ever found yourself rationalizing, “I’m too busy to do something that will build my marriage?” If so, your marriage has fallen prey to the marital monster … Busy R Us … Let’s take some time to see how we can keep this marital monster from devastating our lives . . . Is it any […]
What is the Opposite of Love?
We see couples every weekend at our intensives that are struggling. Many saythey aren’t in love with each other anymore. That statement prompts me to ask one of my favorite questions: What is the opposite of love? It’s fun to watchtheir faces as their hearts and heads connect with their reflexive answer and they quickly blurt out: […]
Has the Sizzle in Your Marriage Fizzled?
Have you ever found yourself comparing your marriage to somebody else’s and thinking … our marriage has gotten a little stagnate … our sizzle has fizzled. Or, if you’re a deep thinker … you’ve asked: “What’s missing from our marriage?” If so … you’re not alone. Many couples hit this wall of frustration. That’s because successful marriages […]
5 Commitments to a Successful Daily Check-In
Karen and I made a New Year’s resolution to do something we challenge all of our intensives couples to do … to hold what we call a “daily check – in.” This is a time where we give each other about 20 minutes of undivided attention to see and hear what’s on each other’s hearts […]
6 Ways to Seize Your Spouse
We’ve all heard the phrase: Carpe Diem or “seize the day”. The idea is tomaximize all of the opportunities that today will bring. Every day offers us a myriad of opportunities … at our jobs … with our colleagues … with our kids … and yes, even with our spouses. The problem is most of […]
3 Reasons to Get Away as a Couple
Have you ever gone on a “Marriage Vacation”? I’m not talking about a second honeymoon or a special anniversary trip. I am talking about you and your spouse scheduling a regular time to get away together alone as a couple, without your kids, to deepen your relationship, friendship and intimacy. If you’re wrestling with that […]