Valentine’s Day is fast approaching … and many are scrambling to get that cute card … those chocolate candies … or a cluster of Chrysanthemums. And while those are all fine gifts, they really don’t do all that much to strengthen the romance within our marriages.
Hey, I’m not saying don’t get your spouse that special card or a sentimental gift … that could be disastrous! What I’m suggesting is that you consider giving your “Valentine” a gift that will make a bigger impact on your intimacy. Here are three ideas:
Time is a powerful gift because it is the one thing we all have the same amount of … and how we spend it is a great indicator of what our priorities truly are. So, when you give your spouse some of your “prime” time … you’re saying that he or she is a high priority in your life.
What does this gift of time look like? Make a coupon offering 15 minutes a day to sit and share a cup of coffee or tea … or for a walk around the block … or to watch his or her favorite show. If you want to up the ante, schedule a regular date night … or a weekend getaway to a marriage retreat.
While you’re spending time together … be sure to talk together. “Small” talk leads to “significant” talk. It’s OK to chit chat about the little things … but if you really want to grow your marriage you’ll need to develop the desire and ability to share what’s really on your heart with your spouse; visit our website for some great questions.
Research suggests that too many couples hold back kissing, touching, or holding each other until they have time for physical intimacy. (That sounds like another great gift coupon!) So, give your spouse a hug and kiss before you leave and when you first get home. Hold hands, rub feet, scratch backs, or snuggle on the sofa. All of those little touches of love and affection boost our feel good hormones!
Make this Valentine’s Day special by sharing these gifts of time, talk and touch with your spouse and watch the romance in your marriage grow!