It’s been reported that the average couple spends less than 3 minutes a day in “meaningful” conversation.
That’s because most of our couple talk is all about family logistics … who …what … where … when … and how … It is reporting … not rapport building … It’s head to head communication … not heart to heart connection.
The Office for National Statistics finds that on average we, as couples, spend between 2 to 2.5 hours a day together and that includes weekends!! Let that sink in … you are only together with your spouse for about 2 hours a day.
And what do we do when we’re all alone with our loved ones? We watch TV (one third of all the time), we eat (30 minutes) and we do “household chores” together (24 minutes).
Here’s a surprise! They found that women cared more than men about spending time together; and the ladies were very clear that this time together had to involve talking to each other. The final revelation: the less time couples spent talking together, the less frequent their physical intimacy was.
So to help you out on all fronts … here are 5 questions that you can ask each other at the end of every day to get the conversations going and your marriage growing! They’re guaranteed to get you talking more than 3 minutes!
- What was the highlight of your day today … what did you feel good about today … Why?
- What was the “downer of the day” … what did you enjoy least about today … what made you feel badly … Why?
- What do you think the Lord might be doing in your life through these things?
- What can I do to help make the rest of your day better? What do you need from me?
- How can I pray for you now …