For us the biggest takeaway was the “heart conversations.” One of our biggest struggles was communication, either because we did not feel safe communicating our feelings or because when we did it was too aggressive and done in an “attacking” way. So this will help us to create a safe space moving forward and help set ground rules to make sure we are only communicating feelings and not attacking, or being received as an attack when it is not.
The coaches were wonderful with us and with the others in our group. One of our biggest fears coming into this was that we would come and it would be “one sided” in some way. The coaches did an excellent job in speaking truth, giving encouragement, and confronting the both of us with some hard truths that each of us needed to confront, as well as affirming for each of us the things we each did well.
We both left feeling renewed and confident in our marriage and determined to use the tools we learned, and continue with the “heavy lifting” assignments over the coming weeks and months.