“The weekend went better than I could have hoped. I know this is just the beginning and there is a ton of work to do on both of our parts, but there is hope again, for both of us. I think seeing our fear cycle spelled out on paper has and will continue to make a big difference. Using heart talks has been helping both of us to feel safer in opening up to each other and sharing what is bothering or hurting us. It’s only the 2nd day back home, and while we haven’t had any conflict yet, we both know it is inevitably coming. However, I think we are both hopeful that the tools we were given will help us resolve the next one instead of adding it to the huge piles we have previously swept under the rug. At the least, we are both committed to doing the work to break our fear cycle that drives us to such a horrible place. I am looking forward to the heavy lifting so that we can continue doing the work to rebuild our marriage.