Spring Cleaning Your Marriage
Spring is here and for many of us that means spring cleaning. That annual ritual of scrubbing our homes from top to bottom after being closed up all winter. The goal is a house that is fresh and clean. For many of us, our marriages may need a little spring cleaning too, because they get cluttered with hurt feelings and unresolved issues that can […]
Am I an Emotionally Available Spouse?
Being emotionally available to our spouses is absolutely essential to a thriving marriage, but it’s also one of our greatest challenges. We’re all stressed by our overcrowded schedules and lofty expectations. We come home from work emotionally exhausted from holding our tempers, biting our tongues, and rolling our eyes all day long to keep peace with our colleagues. So when we get home, we […]
How Pornography Destroys Marriages
The number of men and women entangled with pornography is exploding. While many of us think that porn is a men’s issue, new studies show us that more women are getting involved, too. This research tells us that over 60% of the women have been exposed to porn before age 14, and over 20% of women are addicted […]
Words of Affirmation
I was heading out the door when Karen asked, “What do you want for dinner?” I knew she’d be busy all day and was nervous about leaving a new Bible study in the evening. So I answered, “I’ll grab something for us on the way home”. Karen blurted out in girly frustration, “My mom would have never done that. She’d always have […]
Three Valentine’s Gifts
Valentine’s Day was celebrated by many last week. Many of us were probably scrambling to get that cute card, those chocolate candies or a cluster of chrysanthemums. And while those are all fine gifts, they really don’t do that much to strengthen the romance within our marriages. Hey, I’m not saying don’t get your spouse that special card or sentimental gift…that could […]
What is Love?
Happy Valentine’s Day and I’m sure the romantics will be finding, if you haven’t already, some clever ways to express your love to those valentines in your life with chocolates, roses, hearts, etc. Hopefully you’ve got that covered. But today we do celebrate love and we know that God is love and He is the source of the unconditional and […]
Six Reasons Why Your Love Life Loses Its Sizzle
Over the years of marriage, lovemaking may not be as frequent or as earth shattering as it once was. It may have lost its sizzle. The Apostle Paul in I Corthinthians 7:1-5 warns us of the dangers of sexual temptation. We often see couples at our intensives who are struggling with the consequences of an […]
Marriage Decisions
We minister to over 160 struggling couples a year in our marriage hub intensives. (If you’d like some more information, go to the marriagehub.com). But people often ask me, what’s the number one problem you see in marriages? Many think it’s communication or the inability to resolve conflicts or the lack of forgiveness. And those are some real biggies. But I’ve […]
3 Questions to Ask Before Considering a Divorce
Have you ever found yourself asking one of these questions? Am I the only one working on this marriage? Or what if my spouse is taking and never giving?Or, I’m lonely, I’m unhappy and I want to call it quits? What should I do? For some, calling it quits means living in the same house and experiencing a mutual co-existing […]
Am I a Safe Spouse?
Have you ever lied to your spouse because you were afraid of the negative consequences? Do you ever find yourself hiding your true feelings because you’re fearful of what your spouse might think or feel about you? If you’re like most of us, the answer to this embarrassing question is yes. And that means that we’re not feeling totally safe in our […]