How Being Silent Can Save Your Marriage
Every married couple has learned from experience that there are times to speak and times to keep quiet. It takes a lot of self-discipline to hold your tongue, especially when you’re experiencing strong feelings and emotions. So how can being silent help your marriage? Well, first it defuses anger. Proverbs tells us that a gentle answer turns away wrath. We want to learn […]
Dealing with Anger in Your Marriage
Christian psychologist, Norman Wright, in his classic book Communication Key to Your Marriage, details four basic ways we can deal with anger. We can repress it, suppress it, express it, or confess it. Let’s take a look at this… We can repress it. We try hard to deny our anger and ignore our feelings while trying to convince ourselves that we’re not all that mad. This approach is extremely unhealthy to both you and […]
Be a Better You
Recently my body told me it wasn’t as strong as it used to be, so I joined a gym. The trainer smiled and reassured me that I could get a lot of my old self back and promptly started me on an exercise program to strengthen my core…you know, those muscles in our back, stomach, shoulders and […]
Confronting Sin in Your Spouse’s Life (part 2)
Last week we talked about preparing to confront our spouses and we ended that chat by promising to talk about what and how we say what needs to be said this week. So here we go. First, we want to deal with one issue at a time. Too often we go after the root issue by attacking a long list of symptoms rather […]
4 Ways to Prepare to Confront Sinful Activity in Your Spouse’s Life
Every couple will come to a point where one spouse will have to confront the other regarding an issue that’s negatively affecting their marriage. Let’s be honest, nobody likes to be involved on either end of a confrontation. But if you find yourself having to confront your spouse, here are some vital steps to prepare yourself: Prepare your heart. Matthew 7:5, tells us that […]
Are You Starving Your Spouse?
Are you starving your spouse to death? We all need food and water to live. Basic nourishment is a must for a healthy lifestyle. If we deprive our bodies of food for too long, our vital organs begin to shrink and eventually shut down. Starving to death is a slow and very painful process. But our bodies are not the only thing that need […]
The Valentine’s Day Gift that Keeps on Giving
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner … and you are probably thinking: “Oh boy, what am I going to get my spouse this year?” You know that special gift that says: “I Love You …” Just for fun I went online and googled Valentine’s gifts … and found a site with over 300 to choose from. I have to tell […]
4 Ways to Get Out of a Marriage Rut
Do you ever feel like your marriage is stuck in a rut? You’re trapped in the same routine. Get up at the same time, get ready, go to work, text a few times about schedules, eat dinner, pay bills, watch TV, head to bed, only to wake up to do it all over again the same way tomorrow. John 10:10 Jesus says, “I […]
Speak Well of Your Spouse
After spending time with both couples who are super successful in their marriages and those on the opposite spectrum dealing with major challenges, I found a few key traits that all the successful couples share and the not so successful couples need to learn. One of the biggest ones is to speak well of your spouse in public. Now, that might sound […]
What Should Christian Couples Watch on TV
Many people have asked, is it okay for my spouse and I to watch TV shows that have regular occurrences of nudity in them? With the rise of online streaming services like Netflix or Amazon Prime and the pervasive on demand viewing options for networks like HBO, Cinemax, etc., the accessibility to shows that would never be allowed in primetime has grown significantly. Not only are they […]