Did you know it’s been reported that the average couple spends less than 3 minutes a day in meaningful conversation. That’s because most of our couple talk is all about family logistics…who, what, where, when, why and how. It’s all about reporting, not rapport building. It’s head to head communication, not heart to heart connection.
The Office for National Statistics finds that on average, we as couples spend between two and two and a half hours a day together, and that includes weekends. Let that sink in for a minute. You’re only together with your spouse for about 2 hours a day. And what do we do when we’re all alone with our loved one? We watch TV one third of the time. We eat 30 minutes and we do household chores together.
Here’s a surprise. They found that women cared more than men about spending time together and that the ladies were very clear that this time together had to involve talking to each other. And the big final revelation: The less time couples spent together, the less physical intimacy they enjoyed.
So to help you out on all those fronts, here are five questions that you can ask each other at the end of every day to get the conversations going and your marriage growing:
1. What was the highlight of your day today? What did you feel good about? Why?
2. What was the downer of the day? What did you enjoy least about it? What made you feel badly? Why?
3. What do you think the Lord might be trying to teach you through these things? .
4. What can I do to help make the rest of your day better? What do you need from me?
5.How can I pray for you?
I guarantee you, these questions will get you talking for more than 3 minutes!