How You Can Build Intimacy by Adding Simple Rituals to Your Daily Routine

July 27, 2017

It seems like the word “ritual” has taken on a negative connotation over the years. Everything from daily ruts and routines to empty ritualistic religious experiences … have damaged how valuable good rituals can be.

The term “ritual” is defined as any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed in a set manner.

Psychologist and well-known marriage expert John Gottman says that, “creating informal rituals when you can connect emotionally is critical in a marriage.”

Our bodies are hardwired to tie in positive emotional connections with those daily routines we have … and when we make them purposeful … we grow our daily emotional connections with our spouse.

Here’s a few marriage rituals you could start adding today!

  1. Starting your day off by saying “good morning my love” to your spouse. It may sound corny at first, but whether you’re a morning person or not … there’s nothing better than the 1st words you hear each day being an affirmation of your love for each other.
  2. Before you head out for work in your opposite directions, take a minute to hold hands while you pray for each other’s day. This is an opportunity to grow emotionally … spiritually … and physically all at once!
  3. Create a special time each day where you call each other to check in. Maybe it’s during a lunch break … or at some point during the day when you know your spouse is usually available. That short 2-minute call … or volley of quick text messages … is a great way to do a quick check-in … and prep for the night!

Some other fun things you can do just for laughs …

  • Trying holding your breath as you drive through a tunnel
  • Race home when you drive separate cars to an event … and see who wins!
  • Kiss every time you go thru a covered bridge
  • Singing a favorite song at the top of your lungs in the car together
  • Act like strangers and use your worst pick-up lines on each other


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