I love the oldies … and there is line from a song I often sing on retreats that goes: it’s now or never …
Have you ever felt that way? You are at a place in your life where you just feel things aren’t where you want them to be and you need to make a change … and now is the time … or you will never do it?
Lots of couples begin to feel this way about each other as they approach the empty nest years … their kids are gone or getting ready to go … and mom and dad begin to panic about what they are going to do with each other without their kids.
All those years of focusing their attention on the kids and not each other … has eroded their relationship … and they may begin to think … now is the time for me to get out marriage and … find that perfect spouse.
Well let me say or imagine me singing … it‘s now and never! You are right …NOW is the time to confront that faulty thinking … because it is NEVER time to cave into the temptation of an affair or divorce.
So what can you do? First take a walk down memory lane and talk about all the good things about your relationship … hey you’ve been together this long and raised some great kids! There’s a lot of stuff you’re doing well! Celebrate those!!
Then you might want to talk about where your marriage is and where you would like it to be as you enter this exciting time of your lives … identify your concerns and understand that both of you have short comings and are not the perfect spouse …
Now talk about how you want to make the changes you need to make in your lives and in your relationship to get your marriage back to where you would like it to be.
Remember … it takes less work to revitalize a tired marriage than it does to create a new one … so NOW is the time … to NEVER give up!
